STUDENT'S GIUDE TO SEX INTERCOURSE

What is an acceptable number of people to sleep with at university?
Anon
There is no such thing, so don't play the numbers game. Be yourself and explore your sexuality at your own pace. The acceptable number for some people is zero, while for others it may be many. In any case, when it comes to sex, it's quality, not quantity, that counts. Focus on making genuine connections with people before allowing or initiating sexual contact, and notice your responses, including how peer pressure affects you, and what kinds of situations make you feel comfortable or uncomfortable.
What's a polite way to decline sexual advances at fresher events?
Jaber Mohamed, Leeds
It depends on the style of the advance. A simple "no thanks" is often the best course if the approach is essentially good-natured. But it is important to remember that there are times when politeness is unnecessary, such as when your admirer is not taking no for an answer. Be ready to deal with any sign of sexual coercion by putting a strong and clear stop to it the moment it starts, eg: "I know what you're doing, but it's not going to work with me."
Familiarise yourself with the elements of sexual consent, eg no always means no, and being intoxicated makes consent impossible. Decide how you are going to protect yourself, and above all, listen to your intuition; if a situation doesn't feel right or safe, simply leave.
I am a virgin and just about to start uni. Will everyone be loads more experienced than me?
Anon

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There will be a range of experience among your peers. It's better to explore your sexuality slowly rather than race to have intercourse just because you don't want to be the odd one out. Your sexual development is no one's business but your own, so don't get caught up in sexual competitiveness. Avoid the pressure to keep up with what you think others are doing, and don't listen to those who are boasting. Many are lying!
How difficult is it to carry on a secondary-school relationship if you go to separate universities?
Lucy Marriot, Oxford
For some couples, a deep attachment and early history together allows them to remain close – especially since electronic media now allow for daily contact. It's best, though, to avoid making promises that might be hard to keep, given the social and sexual development you will both be undergoing.
Have a kind and frank discussion about your concerns and take it step by step, re-evaluating the situation every six months or so. Your long-distance relationship will be most likely to succeed if you are both individuals who can enjoy the moments when you are together without second-guessing what attractions may have emerged when you were apart. A little jealousy is natural, but torture is a deal-breaker.

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